Introduction-:

The children's behavior always remains unpredictable. This unpredictability sometimes makes them swing between obedience and disobedience. This variability becomes visible due to actions usually based on significant concepts such as their growth, identity, upbringing, or social and economic background. The unpredictability poses challenges for parents and teachers and an even bigger challenge for those who have taken on the responsibility of motivating children for better understanding and guiding them in the right direction. In certain situations, it has been noticed that children show interest in being obedient by following rules and regulations. If they are not willing to follow set rules or norms regarding challenges, conflicts, or restrictions, they quickly show their disapproval through disobedience.

 

Difficulty in Identifying the Root Cause of Changing Behavior-:

Sometimes it is tough to identify the main cause of changing behavior and work on their attitude, but it becomes tougher to make them realize how necessary it is to change their ways of thinking to attain results. It is not a big deal how the behavior of children changes. The problem becomes bigger when it keeps changing constantly.For example, a child may show interest in studying one day and become completely disinterested the next day, leaving parents confused about their actual mindset.



. Challenges Faced by Caregivers in Disciplining Children-:

This kind of behavior in children creates a difficult phase of frustration for those who take on the challenges of discipline or proper guidance and struggle hard to improve their behavior. It has been conceded that obedient children willingly and eagerly follow rules and instructions, regardless of whether they have been set by their parents or by other authorities or institutions. Children may tend to take things or test their limits in their stride to affirm their freedom. For instance, a child may follow school rules diligently but at home, may deliberately test bedtime rules to assert independence.


Obedience and the Desire for Positive Attention-:

We all know that obedience is a positive characteristic because it shows that children not only try to cooperate but also respect the opinions of their elders. As we adults like to be admired, in the same manner, children also wish to be praised, so they try to draw the attention of their elders to make a better impression. They keep behaving obediently. Sometimes, the unpredictable behavior of children is enough to frustrate elders, but the simple fact cannot be ignored: it is a normal part of their development process, and they love to learn on their own. For example, a child may complete homework just to earn a compliment from parents, reflecting the value they place on praise.


Testing Limits and Developmental Disobedience-:

Children may tend to push limits in their stride to affirm their freedom. Disobedience comes out in different ways, such as talking back, defiance, or outright refusal to comply with rules. Sometimes, the unpredictable behavior of children can be enough to throw elders into a frustrating zone, but the simple fact that it is a normal part of their development cannot be ignored, as they love to learn on their own. Children may tend to take things or test their limits in their stride to affirm their freedom.


. Parenting Struggles and Efforts to Understand Behavior-:

Dealing with a misbehaved child is not easy at all. It becomes most difficult for parents who have to go through this hard time from daybreak to night. In this situation, most parents begin to focus on the root causes of their children's behavioral issues, which helps them understand things from a proper perspective. They put effort into disciplining their children. Elders always find being worried that children are not paying heed to whatever is told to them.


Children Learn by Observing, Not Just Listening-:

In the whole process of saying and following, the simple fact of life gets missed that the children are not only listening but also observing the elders around them very minutely. So, as far as children are concerned, it is not only about ears; they have eyes also. It can't be ignored how good they are at imitating. Children are very good copycats.



. The Influence of Outsiders and the Importance of Early Guidance-:

We should understand that if the parents fail to shape their children, then the undue advantage might be taken by the outsiders. Positive feelings and signs of expression help a lot in building cordial relations. It has never been easy to discipline a child; it requires a lot of effort to make ideas work on the ground. The outside forces may fill their minds with positive traits, or the children might be programmed with negation. It can lead the children astray.


Risks of Neglecting Timely Parental Responsibility-;

Sometimes it is well observed that if responsibility is not taken by parents in time, then this kind of meaningless programming may quickly turn their children's disobedience into delinquency. It is observed that children nowadays, without any kind of discrimination based on social origin and nationality, are subject to individual risks, but are also provided with new opportunities. 'At-risk' is a term often used to describe children.


The Nature of Risks-:

These risks have repercussions and may provide reasons for individuals to become offenders. They are not based on any facts but can be understood as probabilities. There are some benefits along with potential harm. 


Youth Offenses and Influences-:

It has been observed that unfair opportunities are being exploited; young people commit various offenses, consume drugs, and become violent towards their peers. 


Natural Instincts of Disobedience-:

Now the question arises: Why do youngsters behave this way? In my opinion, children are born with a tendency to be interested in things that contradict their beliefs and what they are warned not to do by others.


Impact of Social Pressure-:

 Hence, it is observed that they do not need to learn how to be disobedient; it is instinctive for children, and they follow it without any justification. This conflict between obedience and disobedience persists throughout their lives. It has been noted many times that social pressure and circumstances play a role.


Role of Early Development-:

It also depends on the way these situations are authorized or administered and what kind of impressions these factors have established in the young minds at the beginning of understanding.  It will continue throughout their lives. 


Language and Socialization-:

In my opinion, emotional and cognitive development seems to be related to a child’s capacity to control social behavior within the first two years of life. For example, any delay in language development may raise the level of stress in children and hinder the normal course of socialization. 



Foundation of Early Relationships-:

The nature of the pure relationship between the mother and child establishes a foundation for the child’s relationships with all the other people around them, who might be their relatives or friends as well. This can be expressed in other words. Additionally, if the child is affectionate and imbued with confidence, they will get along well with others in the later stages of their life and display the same upbringing in their behavior.


Family Support and Behavioral Change-:

The unconditional support of family members also creates a significant impact on a child's behavior. For example, for those who have gone astray due to one reason or another, the need for support from their family becomes vital because this support can make a big difference in the long run. This kind of backing from the family can help wrongdoers realize the bad consequences of their misdeeds. Sometimes, this type of support paves the way for them to return to the path of righteousness. 


Peaceful Disobedience and Its Limits-:

It is generally said that peaceful disobedience is necessary for the progress of a free society, but it cannot always be considered the best explanation for progress. Most people peacefully resist for better equality or circumstances, but sometimes they might become violent in the tension between peaceful resistance and the enforcement of the law.


Recurring Theme of Ethical Void-:

It can be said that this is not the only factor, but some other causes are also present that may affect the understanding of social rules and play a big role in creating a negative impact on early delinquency. This conflict between obedience and disobedience persists throughout their lives. They usually ignore the fact that obedience has its value. If they don’t address this aspect of life on time, then everyone will continue to search for the signs of goodness in them, and soon it will be realized that a vacuum has been created, which can be attributed to the hollowness of their ethics. 


Role of Upbringing in Social Behavior-:

The nature of the pure relationship between the mother and child establishes a foundation for the child’s relationships with all the other people around them, who might be their relatives or friends as well. This can be expressed in other words. Additionally, if the child is affectionate and imbued with confidence, they will get along well with others in the later stages of their life and display the same upbringing in their behavior.


Conclusion-: 

It seems that most of the time, people like to protest peacefully. Yes, I do agree that occasionally, protest becomes the only way to create positive change, but it should be done cautiously. If the need of the hour is for a decision to be made from the heart to remove negativity, then don't rely on your head. However, when positivity requires conviction to maintain harmony and peace, never let your heart rule over your head. If a person feels unsupported, they may commit a crime.  In a study, it was found that comprehensive and loving concern from the family decreases the chances of a child's involvement in misconduct.



If a person wants to understand the phenomena of obedience and disobedience, it becomes crucial to understand the causes of different types of behaviors that introduce a person to various life procedures. In our social and cultural conditions, large-scale changes and transformations are required, and they should ensure the improvement of all the major social services directed toward child welfare.