All friends are good, but the best are those with whom a person feels blessed.

 Introduction-:

In today's hyper-connected world, trying to unravel the patterns of human behaviour reveals why availability is often taken for granted. Consistently present and always helpful, support doesn't always translate, whether it's from an old friend who responds quickly or a colleague who's always on call. 

This truth is not intended to annoy anyone! It is just to help us understand a bit about the ways of taking things because sometimes it happens that the friend who replies a day later with a thoughtful perception is far more valuable than the one who texts back instantly with thoughtless suggestions. 

The whole idea is not just connected to emotional comfort; it’s a reflection of our growth, how decisions are made, and how they shape our lives. Let’s dive into the deeper, less-discussed layers of why an intelligent friend—no matter how far—can be worth more than a foolish one who is always at arm’s reach.

Instant responses and impulsive reactions are commonplace in our day-to-day life. As we know, social media, messaging apps, and their real-time updates have conditioned us to anticipate prompt responses. 

However, speed isn't necessary when you're dealing with something significant, such as relationship decisions, career decisions, or even emotional burnout. You must think twice or maybe three times before giving an opinion because decisions or suggestions, whether given or taken, create a huge impact.

 For example, you’re debating whether to leave a job that pays well but makes you feel creatively empty. A friend sitting across from you in a café might say, “Don’t overthink it. Money is important. Stay put.” Quick. Convenient.

 Useless. Now compare that to a message you receive from a friend who lives abroad two days later. After giving it some thought and possibly doing some research, he replied, "Do you recall how enthusiastic you were about design in college? Perhaps this is your opportunity to think about it".

It's not necessary that the person who is always around to offer useless or foolish suggestions harbors any ill will towards you. No, that's not the case; in fact, they either don't understand the significance of the matter or are in the habit of doing so. A foolish friend who is always around you often fills your silence with disorder. Not out of ill will, just habit. 

They offer advice based on hearsay, copied and pasted ideas, or personal insecurities disguised as worries. Intelligent friends, especially those who aren’t entangled in your daily drama, offer something different: space. 

Because they’re not trying to fill every moment or solve every problem immediately, they leave room for you to breathe. And in that breathing room, real solutions emerge. Similarity is frequently nourished by proximity. 

Your closest friends, whether geographically or socially, might share the same beliefs, anxieties, or constraints that you're attempting to overcome.

As we all know, ignorance always creates barriers, so those who are friends or nearby frequently talk because they can, rather than because they ought to. 

This type of suggestion seems to be a monologue due to a lack of understanding that fails to take into account the circumstances surrounding your case.

Who is a true friend 

A good & wise friend can offer clarity, foresight, and thoughtful guidance—qualities that often outweigh the constant presence of someone who offers poor or unhelpful advice.

 Even if they live far away, a wise friend will first ask you: What are your true goals in this situation? What is causing you the most distress? Before answering, they listen to comprehend the whole process of working. This type of interaction needs empathy and mental clarity rather than physical proximity.

 One of the most valuable qualities of wise friendship is that if a strong suggestion is given, no matter how close or far someone is, even long distances can be tolerated. Even after years, you heed the advice of these friends. Imagine experiencing deception in your new job. 

Your close friend may take it as a joke or change the direction of the conversation. However, a wise friend will likely maintain seriousness and provide support.If you are worried during an interview, or doubts arise in your mind, then some good or sensible words from friends can prove to be inspiring for you.

They reinforce the comfort zone rather than addressing your doubts and queries. On the other hand, I would like to tell you it is not about near or distant friends; it is all about smart friends who act more like elevators, especially when you are feeling low. 

You are shown new floors and new viewpoints. Those who live nearby have experiences that are quite different from distant friends, with different paths and different ways of thinking. That distance is not just physical; it is an experience. It broadens your horizons as well. 

Your local friends may discourage you if you live in a small town because they are not prepared to take significant risks or, to put it another way, they are not ready to leave their comfort zone. 

As a result, they will never advise you to pursue ambitious goals because they see entrepreneurship as risky. But a friend who works in a startup hub could offer guidance.

A friend might only speak to you once a month, but each interaction feels nourishing. There’s no emotional inflation—where you're constantly giving and receiving but rarely feeling fulfilled.

 Instead, it’s like saving for a fine dinner rather than grabbing daily junk food. You leave the conversation feeling better, clearer, and stronger, not just busier.

 Here’s a twist: distant, intelligent friends don’t just give advice; they teach you how to think better. Unlike the foolish friend who insists on what you should do, the wise one helps you ask better questions. 

Over time, you realize you’re internalizing their perspective. You approach problems with more maturity, stop outsourcing every decision, and in that way, they become silent mentors, even when they’re not around.

Conclusion:  

Constructive presence is what friendship is all about, not being available all the time. It may be consoling to have someone who is always "there," but wisdom—no matter how rare or remote—is what really enhances  development.

Start admiring  the few voices that elevate rather than just speak in a world full of opinions.

Let's rate the worth of friendship in terms of meaning rather than minutes or messages.

Therefore, if you're fortunate enough to have a knowledgeable friend who lives far away, treasure them. Their quiet might be more powerful than someone else's everyday chatter. Neither It is about far and near connections nor about good or bad